Nice post rly enjoyed reading it.Now on to topic!
I am raid leading last 1,5 years.Started first at 10 man raids than to 25 ,and after that time I got to point to raid lead progression raids and all that come with that.How can I describe my self as raid leader with some name ,well let me think.Imo I am kind of soft raid leader that rarely yells but when I do that it means that it is rly serious.
I never insulted player ,harassed him or w/e to get him humiliated.But I don't hesitate to point fail.Biggest mistake that player can do in raids that I am leading is to try to explain what I saw and find reason to made him like he did all good.Things like "it was not my shadow trap" is things that I rly don't buy.I always prepare ppl before some boss,must say that I rly try to dig out all I can find to make us prepared for raid.Imo that make us kill bosses that some other guilds have problems.I talk to players a lot on vent ,before ,after raid,during day.Simply any member can speak with me any time when I am online.I am more like friend to them than someone they should fear from.Is that good ?NO IT IS NOT !!!!!!That is my downside as raid leader,to much friendly.But that is personality problem.So tho you can choose ,be strict and represent nemesis that will lead guild to progress but ppl will fear you,or be friendly have fun part but prepare to have emo situations and live with it.
In general raid leading is big stress.Amount of stress is connected to skill value of you guild,recruitment,goals about progression,communication with your GM.Yes sometime your GM and fellow officers are biggest enemy in your job as raid leader.If raid leader is not making raid setup but his fellow officers and GM do that (they will always respect rotation in their part of guild mele ,casters etc ),your raid can become a big big pain.That is hardest part of raid leading ,to make raid progressive with setup that you will never choose.So you need to be prepared to change tactic on fly by fast preview of classes you have in raid.
So you have few ways how to do as raid leader.By me ways will be determined by your personality.What you want from game?Are you ready to get enemies in game?Are you ready to teach ppl or you want polished players that are top in their class?What guild are you in?
Many things affect raid leader role,but on end we choose alone how we will react.Guild support need to exist and without that no way you can do your role.That is what I think about this,maybe I forgot some things but in general this is more less basics.